By: Jackie Walters
depression and anxiety that can set in after the loss of a spouse can be
devastating, and most of us don’t know quite how to deal with those feelings,
especially when they hang around for weeks or even months. Losing a spouse is
difficult for everyone, but for seniors the experience is a little different,
as they are entering a stage of life that makes leaning on a lifelong companion
a comfort. Because everyone copes with grief differently, there’s no one way to
handle it; knowing what works best for you is important for you to be able to
important to understand that grief and sadness take a while to come to terms
with. Many people still feel an acute sense of loss 18 months after losing a
loved one, although those feelings tend to abate soon after that. The key is to
remember that you will begin to feel
better after some time has passed, and that those feelings won’t last forever.
some of the best ways to cope with grief and sadness.
Be kind to yourself
important not to place any expectations on yourself during this time. Everyone
grieves differently, and although there are typically five stages of grief that most people experience – denial, anger,
bargaining, depression, and acceptance – you may feel a completely different
range of emotions, or they may come in a different order. Whatever you’re
feeling, it’s normal after the loss of someone who was close to you. You may
feel angry at your spouse for leaving you, or wish it was you instead of them.
Allow yourself to have those feelings and try not to place limits on yourself.
Grief is unique to each and every person.
Don’t keep it inside
Find ways to
express your feelings. Keeping your emotions bottled up, either because it’s
painful to talk about your loss or because you don’t want to burden anyone with
your grief, can make the process worse. If you don’t feel comfortable talking
to a friend or family member, consider seeking a counselor or therapist who
specializes in grief, or join a grief support group. Or, if that’s not right
for you, keep a journal and write in it daily. Being able to get your thoughts
out onto paper can be extremely helpful.
Stick to your routine
seem difficult or impossible, but sticking to your normal routine can help you
cope with your feelings a little better. Try to do something productive every
day; make a piece of art, clean a room in the house, or go for a long walk with
the dog. In fact, spending time with animals can be very helpful during this
time, as they can help reduce stress and anxiety. It can be hard to stick to
your routine if your spouse was the one who kept things in order by cleaning
the house, staying on top of bills, or keeping up the yard. Don’t shy away from
hiring help to get your life back to normal whether that is hiring a housekeeper or caregiver. You might ask a trusted family
member to help with the financials and ensure you don’t miss a payment.
Take care of yourself
sadness can make you feel like all you want to do is sleep, or you might feel
like you never want to sleep again. Your eating habits will change, your stress
levels will fluctuate, and your moods might make you feel like you don’t even
know yourself. This is all normal, but everyone copes with these things
differently, and it’s important to find healthy ways to deal with them. Turning
to alcohol to “numb the pain” might seem like a good idea at the time, but
alcohol only makes things worse when the effects wear off. Instead, turn to
exercise or volunteer at a local charitable organization. Use this difficult
period in your life to grow closer to your children and grandchildren - who
will be sure to put a smile on your face; or seek the solace of friends. This
too shall pass, but you must take of yourself while it does.
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Managing Partner & Licensed Funeral Director/Embalmer
Licensed Funeral Director/Embalmer
Tharon graduated from
Miami-Dade College in 2011 with an Associate’s of Science/ Mortuary Sciences
degree. He moved from Florida to
Northern VA in the summer of 2013 to further his career. He joined the team at Everly-Wheatley in May
2017 as a Licensed Funeral Director.
Tharon is an avid enthusiast of the American Railroad transportation
industry, WW1 and WW2. He enjoys a good
night of burgers and gaming with his friends.
Funeral Service Intern
Jill graduated from Kansas City Community
College in 2013 with an Associate’s of Science/ Mortuary Sciences degree.
She moved back to Northern VA several years ago. She joined the
team at Everly-Wheatley in March 2017 as a Funeral Service Intern.
Executive Funeral Administrator
Amber joined the staff in March of 2017 as a licensed
embalmer. She is originally from Chicago, Illinois and moved to the area with
her husband in 2013 to pursue their careers. She graduated from Worsham College
of Mortuary Science in 2011 with an Associates of Applied Science, as well as a
Mortuary Science degree. She is a member of the Pi Sigma Eta, National Mortuary
Science Honors Fraternity and was also awarded the Richard G.Reichle Sr.
Restorative Art Award. In her spare time she enjoys traveling, music, and art.
Certified Crematory Operator
Funeral Assistant - Front Desk
Funeral Assistant - Death Certificates
Starting out working part-time, Edwin has recently taken on
a much more involved role with us as a Funeral Assistant. Of El Salvadorian decent, he is the youngest of
four siblings, and was born and raised in Alexandria, VA. A 2016 graduate of Edison High School, he
proudly partook in bringing his Lacrosse team to the 5A Conference Regionals as
2nd Defender. In his free
time, he still enjoys playing recreational sports such as soccer, football,
tennis and volleyball. His youthful
vigor and literacy in both Spanish and English are valued assets to best serve
the multicultural needs of the families whose loved one we have taken into
Clarke joined the staff of Everly Wheatley Funeral Home as a
Funeral Assistant and Certified Crematory Operator. A native to Alexandria,
Clarke, recently retired from Fairfax County Fire & Rescue after 30 years
of service. Married for almost 30 years, Clarke enjoys spending time with his
family from Virginia to North Carolina.
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