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How To Deal With Grief After Losing A Spouse

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By: Jackie Walters


The depression and anxiety that can set in after the loss of a spouse can be devastating, and most of us don’t know quite how to deal with those feelings, especially when they hang around for weeks or even months. Losing a spouse is difficult for everyone, but for seniors the experience is a little different, as they are entering a stage of life that makes leaning on a lifelong companion a comfort. Because everyone copes with grief differently, there’s no one way to handle it; knowing what works best for you is important for you to be able to heal.

 

It’s also important to understand that grief and sadness take a while to come to terms with. Many people still feel an acute sense of loss 18 months after losing a loved one, although those feelings tend to abate soon after that. The key is to remember that you will begin to feel better after some time has passed, and that those feelings won’t last forever.

 

Here are some of the best ways to cope with grief and sadness.

 


Be kind to yourself

 

It’s important not to place any expectations on yourself during this time. Everyone grieves differently, and although there are typically five stages of grief that most people experience – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – you may feel a completely different range of emotions, or they may come in a different order. Whatever you’re feeling, it’s normal after the loss of someone who was close to you. You may feel angry at your spouse for leaving you, or wish it was you instead of them. Allow yourself to have those feelings and try not to place limits on yourself. Grief is unique to each and every person.

 

Don’t keep it inside

 

Find ways to express your feelings. Keeping your emotions bottled up, either because it’s painful to talk about your loss or because you don’t want to burden anyone with your grief, can make the process worse. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to a friend or family member, consider seeking a counselor or therapist who specializes in grief, or join a grief support group. Or, if that’s not right for you, keep a journal and write in it daily. Being able to get your thoughts out onto paper can be extremely helpful.

 

Stick to your routine

 

It might seem difficult or impossible, but sticking to your normal routine can help you cope with your feelings a little better. Try to do something productive every day; make a piece of art, clean a room in the house, or go for a long walk with the dog. In fact, spending time with animals can be very helpful during this time, as they can help reduce stress and anxiety. It can be hard to stick to your routine if your spouse was the one who kept things in order by cleaning the house, staying on top of bills, or keeping up the yard. Don’t shy away from hiring help to get your life back to normal whether that is hiring a housekeeper or caregiver. You might ask a trusted family member to help with the financials and ensure you don’t miss a payment.

 

Take care of yourself

 

Grief and sadness can make you feel like all you want to do is sleep, or you might feel like you never want to sleep again. Your eating habits will change, your stress levels will fluctuate, and your moods might make you feel like you don’t even know yourself. This is all normal, but everyone copes with these things differently, and it’s important to find healthy ways to deal with them. Turning to alcohol to “numb the pain” might seem like a good idea at the time, but alcohol only makes things worse when the effects wear off. Instead, turn to exercise or volunteer at a local charitable organization. Use this difficult period in your life to grow closer to your children and grandchildren - who will be sure to put a smile on your face; or seek the solace of friends. This too shall pass, but you must take of yourself while it does.


Privacy Policy

Our Company respects the privacy of our website visitors.  Our Mission to being the most professional, ethical, and highest quality funeral and cemetery service organization in the death care industry extends to this Privacy Policy ("Policy"), and we want to ensure that our website visitors know how we collect, use, and protect personal, and other, information.

This Policy applies to personally-identifying information provided by website users, including personally-identifying information collected from any mobile applications.  This Policy does not apply to personally-identifying information that website visitors provide to a business partner or third party, even if such business partner or third party is linked to our website.

When you use this site, you agree to the Policy that follows.  If you do not agree with this Policy or our Terms of Service, you should immediately cease use of this website.


Information We Collect

We do not collect personally-identifying information from users unless they provide it to us voluntarily and knowingly. We do not share any information with anyone outside our company, except:  (1) to allow third parties to process payment for purchases of Tributes, like flowers, (2) when publishing obituaries, guest books, condolences page postings, or other messages intended for online publication, and (3) for Google Analytics (explained in more detail below).

The types of information we may collect are, among other things:

  • your name;
  • email address;
  • address or postal code; 
  • telephone number; and
  • if you purchase flowers or other Tributes, we may collect credit card and other necessary financial data for those purchases.

In addition, when you visit our site, your browser automatically sends us an IP (Internet Protocol) address and certain other information, including the type of browser you use and browser and standard web server log information. We may use this IP address and other information to give you access to the site and otherwise administer the site. However, at this time, we do not send this information to third parties, except as it pertains to Google Analytics.

Cookies:  We use cookies - small data files stored on the computer or device you use - that record your preferences.  Cookies help us make sure that our websites work, and work efficiently, and help us understand website traffic.  Cookies may also help us enforce our Terms of Service and maintain website security.  In addition, you may get cookies from other companies that have a link on our websites, but we have no control over these companies' cookies.  These third party cookies do not fall under our Policy.  Most likely, your web browser has a setting that allows you to modify your preferences so that you can decline cookies.  However, if you select this setting you may be unable to access certain parts of the websites.  Please see http://www.allaboutcookies.org/ for more information on cookies.  Our websites do not currently respond to web browser "do not track" signals.

Web Beacons:  Pages of websites may contain web beacons, which are small electronic files that permit us to count visitors who have viewed our pages.  We collect certain usage information about our site, such as the number and frequency of visitors to certain parts of the site. This data is used only in the aggregate and does not include any personally identifying information.  Web beacons also help us collect other website statistics that help us better understand the functionality and popularity of our website and its content.

Google Analytics:  We also use Google Analytics on our sites.  Google Analytics is a service that anonymously collects website traffic data through cookies.  The data, which includes geolocation data, helps us analyze and review how our website visitors use our websites.  The anonymous data is send to, and stored by, Google on servers that are housed in the United States, but the data is not sent to any other third parties.  If Google is required to by law, it may transmit the anonymous data to a third party.  

Visitor Provided Information:  In certain parts of the site, we may ask you to provide us with your name or other information so that we can provide you with information you request or take other action indicated in the part of the site where the information is requested. You are under no obligation to provide us with this information, but without it, we may not be able to take the action requested. The site also includes features that allow you and us to communicate by electronic mail, text message, or otherwise.

If you choose to use these features, you will be required to provide us your e-mail address and other personally-identifying information (such as your name, phone number, or street address) we may deem necessary to communicate with you electronically, by text message, or otherwise, or review your request. When you provide any personally identifying information to us, you acknowledge that you are knowingly and voluntarily providing us the information. We will not use such information for marketing purposes, but we may respond to the electronic mail messages you send us, take other action indicated in the part of the site where the information is requested, and use such information for any other business purpose, including sending you subsequent communications concerning this site, or our Company.

You may also give us information about other people, including a spouse, parent, child, other family member, or friend.  We only use this information for the specific reason for which you provide it to us.  Note:  personally-identifying information included in any portion of an online Tribute, guest book, and condolence, for example, is publicly available, and this Policy does not apply to that information.  When buying flowers, users may be given the options to choose to publish the name and card message, publish the name only, or publish neither the name nor the card message

Your Privacy:  The information collected is never revealed, sold, or made public for any reason, except for the reasons otherwise stated in this Policy. Personally identifiable information (name, email, phone number, or home address, etc.) is never disclosed to any third party individual or business, except for the reasons otherwise stated in this Policy.


How We Use the Information Collected

We use the information provided to us to:

  • Present our websites and their contents to you; 
  • Provide you with information, products, or services;
  • Allow you to participate in the interactive features on our websites;
  • Fulfill any other purpose for which you provide the information;
  • In any other way as described to you when you provide information; 
  • Determine your geographic location;
  • Work with a potential buyer or seller in the event of a divestiture or acquisition in which personally identifying information held by us through our website is among the assets transferred, provided that, however, such buyer or seller agrees to protect and respect your personally identifying information in a manner consistent with our Policy; and
  • For any other purpose with your consent.


What Information We Share

We try to make sure that the personally identifying information you provide us remains private. We will not sell, rent, trade, or otherwise disclose the personally-identifying information you provide to anyone outside of our company, and its respective affiliates, successors, and service providers, except, and subject to the other provisions in this Policy:  (1) in response to a Court Order or other legal or government process in which we believe in good faith that disclosure is legally required by us; (2) to defend us or our property, including our websites and users, including to enforce our website's Terms of Service; and (3) if necessary in the unlikely event of an emergency, to protect us, our agents, our website visitors, or the public as required by law, or in a situation in which public authorities are required to deal with an emergency situation.

Please be aware, however, that it may be possible for others to read messages that you send over the Internet, so do not send by e-mail, or post online, any information that you would like to keep confidential.


Other Information You Submit

If you use the communication features of this site to provide us with information other than personally-identifying information, including suggestions about the site, product and advertising ideas, and any other such information, that information will belong to us and may be used, reproduced, modified, distributed and disclosed by us in any manner we choose, without paying compensation to you, to the extent allowed by law.

Children Under 13

We neither market our website to children under the age of 13 nor knowingly collect personally identifying information from children under 13.  Website visitors who are under the age of 13 should not use our websites and should not send us personally identifying information.  If we learn that personally identifying information regarding a child under the age of 13 has been collected on our websites, we will delete such information.


Links

This web site may contain links to other sites and banner ads that take a visitor to another website. In no case is subscriber information or cookies provided to the third party sites. However, please be aware that we are not responsible for the content or privacy practices of such other sites. We encourage our users to be aware when they leave our site and to read the privacy statements of any other site that collects personally identifiable information. On the Internet, many sites do attempt to capture visitor information when you browse those sites.


Changes to Privacy Policy

We reserve the right, at our complete discretion, to change this Policy at any time by posting revised terms on the site. It is your responsibility to check periodically for any changes we may make to this Policy. Your continued use of this site following the posting of changes to these terms or other policies indicates that you accept the changes.  If material changes are made to how we treat our visitors' personally identifying information, we will put a notice on the website with "[UPDATED]" in brackets next to the Policy link.  The date that the Policy was last revised will also be identified at the top of the Policy. 


How to Contact Us

If you have any questions about this Privacy Policy, please contact us by e-mail by visiting the Contact Us section of our website.


Miscellaneous

This Privacy Policy as stated herein constitutes the entire agreement between you and the Company with respect to the Company's Policy. No changes to the Policy shall be made except by a revised posting on this page, and you are responsible to be aware of all such changes.

This Policy shall be governed by and construed in accordance with the laws of the State of Texas applicable therein, without regard to conflict of laws. You irrevocably consent to the exclusive jurisdiction of the courts located in the State of Texas in connection with any action arising out of or related to these terms of use or their subject matter. You waive any objection based on lack of personal jurisdiction, place of residence, improper venue or forum non-convenience in any such action.

If any court having competent jurisdiction holds any provision of this Policy invalid or unenforceable in any respect, such provision shall be enforced to the maximum extent permitted by law, and the remaining provisions of this Policy shall continue in full force and effect. No waiver of any provision of this Policy shall be deemed a further or continuing waiver of such provision or any other provision of this Policy.


To California Residents

California Civil Code Section 1798.83 allows our California resident website users to request certain information regarding our disclosure of personally identifying information to third parties for their direct marketing purposes, if any.  To make such a request, please contact us by e-mail by visiting the Contact Us section of our website.


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